When Doves Fly
During my hiatus from blogging, I had the opportunity to attend a work related conference held in Austin, Texas. This four day event produced at least one item that I wanted to share with you. Granted there were plenty of other situations that took place that would be entertaining to share, however, they would need to appear in a very different blog under an assumed name!
Now onto the lesson…
Prior to arriving at the conference, we were sent a personality profile quiz. A series of 18 questions each of which gave two answer options, for example, question 1:
a). more open to getting to know people better and establishing new relationships, OR
b). more likely to control who I get involved with and how well I get to know them
On the opening day of the conference, we were given our results; based on the answers to the 18 questions we were either DOVES, OWLS, PEACOCKS or EAGLES – essentially we were all D.O.P.E.S.; as the acronym spells out!
Let me first say, this isn’t my first rodeo, as I have taken many other personality profiles. I’m a big fan of good on-line horoscopes, I’ve shelled out cash to the neighborhood psychic for a reading on my future and I even had a bonafide PHD in Astrology use my birthdate and the alignment of the stars to tell me who I really am. Ironically, I consider myself pretty intune to “who I am”. I feel very comfortable telling anyone who cares to know, what I do well and where my faults lie. So why then am I still so fascinated by these profile assessments? If I’m never surprised by what they say, why do I continue to get so much meaning out of them? Perhaps I am hoping that someone else will see something better in me and convince me to do the same.
Back to the lesson…
the four personality types panned out as follows:
- The peaceful DOVE. The dove is people-orientated, loyal, friendly, hard-working and a great team player but tends to avoid change, confrontation, risk-taking and assertiveness.
- The wise OWL. The owl is logical, mathematically minded, methodical and sometimes seen as a perfectionist. The owl can be slow to make decisions and inflexible if rules and logic says otherwise. Owls are not big risk takers but love detail.
- The showy PEACOCK. The peacock loves talking, being the center of attention, has passion/ enthusiasm and is happy/ optimistic. Peacocks can be accused of talking too much, and aren’t good with detail or time-control.
- The bold EAGLE. Eagles are dominant, stimulated by challenge, decisive and direct. Eagles can be blunt/ stubborn, can lose sight of the big-picture and can be insensitive to other people’s needs. Eagles are natural achievers.
Anyone that knows me (and/or is able to infer from the not so cleverly disguised blog-title) knows where I fell into this mix; I’m all DOVE.
But here’s the kicker, the take-away from this session however, was not about understanding who you are but understanding the people around you. The moderator used a great opening statement, which he adopted from best selling author, Tony Alessandra, and I will paraphrase:
Most of us try to live our lives following the Golden Rule…”do unto others as you would have them do unto you”; but what’s more powerful is to follow the Platinum Rule…“Do unto others as they would have you do unto them”.
In essence, if you are dealing with someone who is a Peacock then treat them the way Peacocks want to be treated. If I’m a Dove and I’m following the Golden Rule that I grew up on, then I will end up treating the Peacocks in my life the way I enjoy being treated. While that might not be a bad, thing, the chances that I will get that Peacock to do what I want, are slim to none because they won’t respond to the same stimuli that I do. Peacocks want to be treated differently than Doves (and Owls, and Eagles, etc..). If I want to make progress with a Peacock, I need to give them what they want, not what I want. This, my friends, was truly inspired thinking for me.
I have no stake in this testing profile and anyone can do a google search of Doves, Owls, Peacocks and Eagles and a thousand hits will appear with links to hundreds of sites. Throughout this blog, I embedded a few links, if you care to click onto them and see what I’m talking about. I also found a youtube video, that’s a fairly decent summary of what I experienced. Take it or leave it, but I can attest that in my work life, my school life, and my sad to report, still quite unfulfilled love life, when this Dove flew to Texas, she learned a pretty invaluable lesson that I could not help but share.
Happy Flying All!